We share our practical advice for supporting a friend who’s sick
When a friend falls ill, we want to help and support them as much as possible. There are naturally limits to what we can do, but there are numerous practical ways to support a friend and let them know that you are there for them.
Be Present
One of the most valuable gifts you can offer a sick friend is your presence. Whether it’s a visit to their home or hospital room, or simply reaching out via phone or video call, being there for them is essential. Really listen when they talk and let them express their feelings, fears, and frustrations. By actively engaging in their stories, you’re showing that you genuinely care and are willing to offer emotional support throughout their healing journey.
Be Practical
Sickness often brings physical limitations, making everyday tasks more challenging. Why not lend a helping hand by offering practical assistance and allow your friend to focus on their recovery? Whether it’s running errands, preparing meals, lifts to the hospital or taking care of household chores, these small acts can significantly ease their burden. When offering to help or visit, try be specific – rather than asking how you can help and putting the ball back in their court, ask if their kids need a lift from school, or if you can pop in after work with supper.
Be Meaningful
Brighten your sick friend’s day with thoughtful and meaningful gifts. Whilst flowers or a favourite book can bring joy, consider their individual preferences and needs. Perhaps they enjoy puzzles or crafts to occupy their time or would appreciate a care package filled with soothing teas, cosy blankets, or relaxing music.
Be Human
While everyone is obviously different, remember that your friend isn’t just their sickness – they have a sense of humour, interests and hobbies, a favourite TV show or book. Yes, their life is probably dominated right now by what they have to do to get better, but your conversations don’t always have to be based on that part of their life.
Be Thoughtful
Whilst your intentions are noble, it’s crucial to respect your friend’s boundaries and preferences. Illness can make people feel vulnerable, and some may prefer solitude or limited social interactions. Always ask before visiting or providing assistance and be understanding if they decline. Respect their need for rest or privacy, allowing them to dictate the pace and extent of their interactions.
